"Whats Love Got To Do With It?"

In The article "Whats Love Got To Do With It?" written by Anjula Razdan is about different cultures and how they come to decide how one gets married. In the article she gives us some information on todays society. More and more marriages these days are ending in divorces and the marriage rates are even very low then where they were before the twenty first century. People are being more attracted to looks then getting to know the person. In the article there are key points in which to prove that marriages are going down hill and not working out for people. One of Anjulas thoughts is that people just do not know how to choose their life long partner and when they think they have a stable partner and get married they often think to themselves down the road "who is this person?" In the article "Whats Love Got To Do With It?" by Anjula Razdan it is seen that choosing ones spouse is a very hard long decision therefore one needs to look at other aspects of a person to truly know if they are in love or not.
Dr. Alvin Cooper, the director of the San Jose Marital Services and Sexuality Centre and a staff psychologist at Stanford University says that the main reason people find themselves in a divorce or an unhealthy marriage is because of physical attraction. This is very true. In todays society everyone looks for that perfect ten. they think since a person has beautiful eyes, gorgeous hair, and a rockin body that they are wife or husband material. One needs to find the inner self of people. They need to get to know the person instead of judging them for their looks. Epstein states that most people lack basic relationship skills and as a result most relationships lack emotional and psychological intimacy. Getting along with a person and enjoying each other are key points of a good relationship. The two people should feel comfortable and communicate well in order to make a relationship work. However, there are other cultures that do things differently when it comes to marriage. 

In some cultures one child might already have a life long partner before they even realize what is going on. And it has been shown in this article that way might be better than choosing for yourself. Once your parents have made up their mind in who you will marry you get to focus your attention on just that person when you are growing up. You get to do everything with them and really get to know them. That is not the case with choosing for yourself in America. The family background and values and beliefs also play a huge role in love. If both people share those qualities then they have a better chance of making it. 

Love is a big word that gets tossed around in todays world. But do we really know what love is? Most of us do not. Some may use the word and think they know what it means but really don't. I believe it is all about knowing someone well enough that they certain if they get married things will work out. I also believe you have to be with someone for a very long time in order to know if you love them. Some people get married for all the wrong reasons. They do not really care for that person and they just want to have the label as married. Most of the people that get married do not really know if they are ready. They could be making the decision to say yes just out of shock and disbelief. 

In conclusion who really wants to spend their whole life just waiting for that one person to come along. Everyone falls in love with someone one moment in their life. I believe if you just be yourself and do what you want to do you will find the right match for you. Along the way you may think you love someone but if you really get to know them you could find yourself to be wrong. That is called life. There are many obstacles in the game of life and if you do not overcome them then you will find yourself wondering how the time has past. So enjoy life and one day you will find that person that you can really for sure know you love.